Things You Need to Know About Having a New Baby
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When you’ve just had a new baby, there are all sorts of things going on and not all of them are things that people have told you about. There are the physical changes happening to your body, the tiredness you’re experiencing, hormones flying all over the place. Additionally, there is the actual baby! Loads of things are going to happen or are happening already, which seem strange, but don’t panic because they’re completely normal. But these are things you need to know about having a new baby.
A Lot Of Crying – From You
Oh, you thought the baby was the one who was going to be doing all the crying? Wrong! Don’t be surprised if you cry incessantly at first; it doesn’t mean you have postpartum depression. You’ve just had a baby, so you are bound to be an emotional roller coaster for the first few days or weeks (or sometimes months). This is to be expected as your hormones are all over the place, and you’re now responsible for another life. You will, most likely, be getting little to no sleep, and you are going to cry. It doesn’t mean you are depressed, it means you’re a new parent, and it’s all perfectly normal. Of course, if those feelings continue to be overwhelming after several weeks or if they are coupled with an intense sadness that won’t lift, do seek help.
They Don’t Sleep Through The Night
Another thing to know about when you have a newborn is sleep. Babies don’t sleep through the night. Please don’t expect them to. You’re not failing because your baby keeps waking up. Newborns will wake up throughout the night as much as they do during the day because they need food. According to Newton Baby, the length of your baby’s naps will vary from 20 to 30 minutes to an hour or more, but they recommend to cap the naps at no more than two hours long.
Now the reality of waking your baby up when they are napping is very different than what you think. We have all watched shows where the baby wakes up at a drop of a pin, but when you want a baby or toddler to wake up from a nap, it often times, it seems impossible.
Breastfeeding Can Be Hard
From what you’ve seen on television or what you know from other people, you might assume that breastfeeding just happens. But it isn’t for everyone, it is hard, and it might not work for you and your little one – and that’s okay. There is a scene in the comedy series, The Office, when Pam and Jim have their first child. Pam is trying so hard to get her daughter to nurse, and it just isn’t working. This can be frustrating for many new moms, and the more frustrated you get, the harder breastfeeding becomes.
There is so much advice about pregnancy and birth and even caring for a newborn, but so little preparation about how breastfeeding actually works and how to get started. In fact, you might not even know that your supply doesn’t automatically start to come the moment the baby is born but takes days to come in. Newborns don’t just magically latch and suckle all the time, as it takes time for a baby to learn how to feed and for you too. Don’t feel pressured to do what others say. Do what works best for you and your baby.
Strange Bowel Movements
For the first few days, what you’ll see in your baby’s diaper will look very odd, and baby pop will consist of meconium. This is a sticky greenish-black substance that lined your baby’s intestines during pregnancy. Don’t worry; there’s nothing wrong with your baby.
After the initial meconium has passed, the amount and frequency of poop that your newborn will produce may shock you. Don’t be surprised when they come in a wide variety of types. There could be black poop, yellow poop, green poop, and even brown poop. There might be solid, liquid, sticky, and sometimes even speckled poops. This is completely normal. However, if you notice any white or chalky substance in your babies diaper, call your doctor to schedule an appointment just to be safe. This white substance can signal dehydration, and that your baby isn’t getting enough to eat.
Your Baby Can’t Focus
Don’t worry; there’s nothing wrong with your baby. Babies just can’t see very far. It might look like your baby has wonky eyes and doesn’t know what’s going on. However, for the first few weeks of his life, your baby can only focus on objects 20 to 30cm in front of them. If you notice your child’s eyes continue to be unfocused after several months, talk to your doctor at your next well-baby visit.
After being snug and cocooned in the womb for all this time, coming out into dry air can be quite a shock to their little sensitive skin. Around the second or third day after birth, you may notice the skin become flaky as it adjusts to life outside the womb. This will rectify in a short time. Again, if it lasts for a long time, make sure to mention this to your doctor.
Your breast will get bigger when you are pregnant and nursing a new baby. However, when you are having a new baby, few people talk about baby boobs. Don’t worry; it’s perfectly normal. While your child is developing in your womb, they will absorb an array of maternal hormones, and because of these, it’s likely that your newborn will have the appearance of baby boobs.
Lots Of Sneezing
As you’re probably aware, adults sneeze when allergens enter their noses, or they’re coming down with a cold. However, newborn babies sneeze all the time as it helps them to release any amniotic fluid that has been left there. Also, their tiny little noses aren’t used to the smells of the outside world. So long as there are no wheezing sounds with the sneezes, then don’t stress, it’s perfectly normal.
There are plenty of surprises in store when you have a new baby. Some of these surprises include the amount of things you need to buy. However, nothing will prepare you for this time in your life, but it is magical and you will have a great time uncover your baby’s new personality.
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